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Hosting a baby shower?
I am hosting a baby shower along with my younger sister and older cousin, for our older cousin's first baby. The mommy-to-be has 2 MUCH younger sisters (10 and 7 yrs) who we weren't initially going to include in the actual hosting but we were going to include them a little bit in whatever we could manage, as they live a pretty fair distance away. So they are not actually hosting the shower, but their mother wants us to put their names on the invitations as hosts. I have no problem doing this as long as they are actually going to help in splitting the cost and doing the work...(they as in their mother...) How do I go about handling this situation?

I would call the mother and discuss the situation with her, and mention that anyone listed as a host is contributing financially to the party, or won't be listed as a host. If you don't feel comfortable talking to the mom about this, then choose to not have them listed as hosts because they are children and because they are not contributing in any meaningful way to the preparations for the party. The mother needs to understand this, and if she doesn't like it, then her and her daughters can throw their own shower on their own terms with their own money.

which players in your opinion have cost the most in their careers to date that you think should never have?
emile heskey costing £22.75 mil to date between 3 transfers must be having a laugh ade akinbiyi costing a career total of £14.5 mil to date nicolas anelka costing a career sum to date of £44.7 mil without really setting the world alite and with a host of clubs willing to pay around £8 mil for his services this season on the other end of the scale you have keith gillespie only one club has paid cash for his services out of playing for 7 clubs he has raised £3.3mil in tranfer fees but still managed to play with top teams in the prem how i dont know can anybody think of any more that i can add to the list

Ashley Ward - had a few £3 - £4m transfers in his time

How to make a site like Myspace/Facebook?
I'm wondering what web site developers are out there that can manage such a big task to create a website similar to Facebook and Myspace. What is the cost to manage something like this? Are they any reliable sources to go to? Perhaps a Web developer that has his own hosting site to. I tried to look through one of my web design magazines but i can't find any of them right now. It would be great if someone could give me a detailed answer on this and could lead me into a direction of a Web developer/designer who knows how to handle such intense task like this.

It doesn't cost all that much if you know how to code it for yourself - only insane amounts of time and a few thousand $$ for a server. You could contact the owners of Yuniti ( http://yuniti.com ) - I know they always answer emails. It was two brothers who made the entire thing on their own.

Can I host a murder party without actually buying a kit? Please tell me how...?
I cannot buy a kit since I live in India and buying it anywhere here is impossible, since no one actually keeps them over here. And, I cannot buy it online since the amount of dollars when converted to rupees cost a lot. Please tell me how I can manage a party without the kit. I have the help of a cousin and a friend, so it can be hardworking. Just tell me how to do it, in detail....thanks.....I appreciate your help....

The first thing you do is find a good "who dun it" book or one of those old movies where the guests all get locked into the mansion for the night with the murder victim. You will need one person to play the victim. and one person to be the murderer. He or She should pretend to be one of the regular guests at the party. You will have to make a list of all the clues in the book/movie and figure out how to plant them. Other than that, you will just have to do a walk thru, practice party with someone who will later on be a plant among the guests. this is to make sure that every thing goes smoothly, and to work out any bugs in the plan. later on during the actual party, your plant can keep things on track if people aren't noticing the clues (Whats that over there? can go a long way)

I'm designing a website...how much $$ is it worth? What's the going rate?
I'm designing a website for a medium-sized company in Las Vegas. The site uses html, as well as PHP/MySQL, flash, and java. Approximately 90% of the business administration is done on the website. Thus far, I have written 25,000 lines of code, and the MySQL database has about 50 tables, the largest table has about 120,000 records. I've done all of the website design from scratch, both the art on the front end and the database in the back. I also physically host their web and db server. I also host and manage their E-mail server. Future plans are to integrate some of their administration with Medicaid. I've been doing the work for a little over a year. A year ago, I laid out a basic site, and asked for a (VERY small) price, and got it. But the project is getting very large, and I need to start getting paid! The trouble is, I have no idea what to ask. Hourly rate? Per line of code? Re-quote the entire project to the company? Does anyone have any ideas about a baseline salary or guide to estimating the cost of the work I'm doing? Thanks! Thanks for all the feedback so far. A few other points: I can't show you the site, since it deals with the inner workings of a health-related company, and there are lots of strict security requirements (HIPAA). I also work for the company in another capacity. As they started to grow and expand onto the web, I offered to do their site. The price I quoted was for very specific things. As the company grew, so did the site, and there are lots of things I'm doing now that aren't in the original quote. I am extremely good friends with the owner of the company, and there is absolutly no animosity at all. I'm certain that the owner simply has no clue what a job of this size would cost him (as don't I), and I'm sure that anything reasonable, he will pay. It's my bad for not approaching him much earlier on about all of the extra work. I get a very good salary from the company in my other job, and this extra work really wasn't an issue until now. Thanks for the help so far!

You got paid a small amount a year ago and now have 25,000 lines, of your own code? You should ask for an hourly rate, although I have to tell you. Most small business people don't have any idea what a real web site costs, so they'll probably balk at anything that even an entry level person would charge. I would say $50/hour is reasonable for update work. You should either charge several hundred a month to host, or get a real hosting company like Rackspace (or, price up a hosting site like Rackspace, then offer to do the same for a couple hundred less). Also, integrating with Medicaid? that to me means you have medical data on the site. There's a slew of HIPPA regulations that you should be concerned with, plus backup and security issues. What I think you should do, since you're going to have a hard time getting paid retroactively (and I have to side a little with the other party here. They paid you, and you didn't ask for more, right?) is to tell the person about all these issues, that you have other projects and can't maintain this anymore. Start shopping around for other services that would host, support, and deal with the HIPPA/security issues. I would imagine any remotely decent place would charge $1000-$2000/month. Just to do the basics. After that, hourly updates at $100/hour. Once you get quotes back on that kind of stuff, you can offer to match, and since you've been with this company for a long time and you wrote the site, you'll probably arrive at a price below that, but a whole lot more than nothing. The issue is, really, the other party thinks your service is of very low value. Why would you be working for nothing if it weren't? You need to demonstrate what its worth. The other option would be to claim that you own the intellectual property and duke it out in court. I would not suggest this, but I'm sure others would disagree.

I need to build my own website with my own content and wish to add my adsense ads in it?
I hope my site will be better if it will be in a forum/classifieds like Public-sharing website i.e., which allows the users to register in my site and do something...Hope you understand. For the above needs, How much space should I buy and How much will it cost to build such a website... Also If I do it, what and all I can do to make some earnings/revenue through it ? Will it be worth for my investment ? And also I don't know anything about webdesigning/HTML Coding....Can I manage it ? How much it'll cost for marketing ? Also Can anyone (experienced....pls give your website address) suggest me the best place to design & host my website.? If in MADURAI-Tamilnadu it'll be better. Thanks !

Go tpo yahoo small buiness it takes onle 2500

Do you have any idea what we go through??????
Body: If you have ever worked in a restaurant this is for you. If you haven't...well read it anyways so you understand where they're coming from. I THINK EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE ARE TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! RESTAURANT RECCOMENDATIONS 1. Don't ask me for your check, then wait till I run to a computer, and then all the way back to your table just to throw your credit card at me without looking it over. Why didn't you give it to me in the first place, if you weren't even going to LOOK at the bill? 2. Don't snap your fingers at me. Don't wave at me like I am blind. I see you, I'm busy. 3. Don't argue with me about the menu. We don't have whatever wild creation you are craving. I know the menu, and after all, I work here, remember? "Last time I was here they made it for me this way." Good for you, now go to Burger King and have it your way, then. 4. No, I don't want to split your check six different ways so you can all pay in cash. DO SOME MATH! 5. WHY do you steal my pens? Do I come to your office and steal your keyboard? It's something I need to WORK with... take my pen again and see if your wallet is still in your pocket when you get home. 6. What ever happened to please and thank you? It's bad enough only one person in your party speaks English, and I'll be lucky if you leave me 10%.... but the "Give me a Sprite" crap is just plain rude. 7. Does it REALLY matter if you sit at a table, rather than a booth? Do you not notice the hostess CRINGE when you ask for a booth after she already walks SLOWLY to the table so you can keep up? Do you sit at a booth at home? Nope. What's even better is when you don't FIT IN THE BOOTH and we have to move you back to that table. Smarty pants. 8. It's not your birthday. We know you are lying and NO we don't like singing to you. Do we look happy that we have to clap for you? Also, I don't understand why some tell their server 600 times "It's her birthday, it's her birthday" and still act like shocked and embarassed. We'r bringing you a microwaved brownie... get over it. 9. Just because you come here regularly does not make you special. This means you are a regular pain in the butt. Yay for you, needing extra everything. I cringe when I see you sitting in my section. 10. Read the menu, please. It's fact the people tend to order entrees that have PICTURES. I don't care if you didn't know that there are peppers in that meal, you should have gotten off your cell phone and read the menu. We don't cook surprises, idiot. 11. If you are in a bad mood, keep it to your self. Don't snap at me because you forgot to ask for lemon in your water. I'll be sure to bring it back with some snot in there, too. 12. Listen to me, please. I don't stand at your table and talk to you for fun. When I tell you I'll be right back with your side of cheese and a coke refill, I don't need you to say, "Yeah, hey and I need another coke." No kidding, man I just told you that I'm getting it. 13. The hair in your salad is YOURS. Sorry lady, but you're the only person in the joint with long, red hair. Nice try. 14. If your child is screaming, leave. You don't want to hear it, I sure don't... and I'm pretty sure you will notice all the dirty looks you're getting. I'll never understand why people try and sit through a meal with a raging beast child. I will be more than happy to pack your food to go. Just GO if you haven't got that parenting knack down yet. 15. If you think I am staring at you, pacing back and forth waiting for you to pay your bill so I can leave..... I am. When I tell you my shift is over and you agree to the check, GIVE ME YOUR MONEY. I have better things to do than watch you sip your melted margarita and ignore the fact that you owe me money. 16. This is a restaurant, not your house so re-arranging is forbidden. Yes, I mind if you move this table over to that one and take chairs over here. We sat you at that table for a reason, moron. Sorry you want to make room for all your friends who "just want waters." 17. Those nice people who smile at you when you walk in are called hosts. They will seat you. Don't get mad when you wander to a random table and don't get immediate service. YOU ARE A SELF SEATER, AND I HATE YOU. 18. When you WORK at a restaurant, and tip like crap... you should be shot. Especially at your own job... with your own discount. YOU of all people see what goes down, and know how hard we work. Show some respect, or join the rest of the white trash at Wendy's dollar menu. Then quit your job, cause I hate you, too. 19. You should never go out to eat and be in a rush. It's just not fair to anyone. If you walk into a place that has a 70min wait, why do you wait, and expect to get your food in 15 minutes? I don't care if you're trying to catch that 8:45 movie... Go tell the cooks who are crashing that you need your burrito before you watch the new Spiderman flick. I predict you'll get the finger. It's not MY fault the food takes a long time... especially your extra well done steak. 20. Don't take plates out of my hands unless I ask you to, and certainly don't reach for drinks off of my tray. Ever heard of balance? When I tell you a plate is HOT, I'm serious... so why do you grab it away from me like it's golden? I can put it down, ya know. Also, that water isn't going anywhere. I don't need your help I can manage to set a glass down. If I spill it on you, it's probably your own fault. Then I'm sure you'll tip me less just because it's an excuse to do so. Now here's the ORIGINAL POST--- The next time you're out eating at a resturant, look at your server. Do you think they are really happy to be doing that job? The answer is no, they are not, but its what we do, and we do it for the money so please help them out. Its a tougher job than you think and you should pay them accordingly! There are SO many people out there flooding the restaurants w/o any knowledge of how to tip. Here is a short guide for the general public to follow. Feel free to print out and store in your wallet and/or purse. 1. CHILDREN "THE LITTLE DEVILS": If you have children, DO NOT let them, open and dump anything on the table (ie; salt, sugar, etc). IF YOU DO, you must leave an extra $5 for the server to clean up YOUR CHILD'S mess & to restock the now unusable wasted items. Don't get mad if you ask for crackers and your server tells you they're out when you just saw another table eating crackers with their soup -- can you blame them for not wanting to clean up the mess afterward? We are neither their babysitter nor their parent. The least you can do is pay us for the extra work. Also make sure you control your kids and don't let them scream or run around the restraunt. It's very distracting not to mention dangerous if they get ran over by a server with hot food in their hands. 2. "THE CAMPERS": If you feel the necessity to stay for longer than 15 minutes after you pay, its an extra $3 every 30 minutes. We make our money from the tables. If you are in one and we can't seat it, we don't make money. 3. COMPLIMENTS: Telling a server they are the best server they've ever had is not a tip. If we are good, let us know by leaving us more money. We cant pay our bills on compliments. Its not that we don't appreciate the praise, its just that if you say that and then leave 10% it's an insult. 4. TIPPING: It is not 1960. Cost of living has gone up dramatically since then. 18% is the MINIMUM amount of what you should be tipping your servers. Remember, that steak is $12.99 not $22.99 because restaurants aren't required to pay minimum wage in most states! ($2.13 in Texas and New Jersey!) We are taxed on 10 percent of your meal automatically anyway, not to mention we have to tip out a percentage of our sales - your bill - to the hosts, bartenders, and bussers. So if you dont leave a tip, WE END UP PAYING FOR YOUR MEAL!! So move that decimal one spot left and multiply by 2 and your server will never be disappointed. ($25 = $2.50 x 2 = $5) 5. THE COMPLAINERS: If you get a discount because of your food was prepared wrong or something, do not take it out of our tip. We didn't cook it. The cooks get paid hourly regardless if the food sucks. However, we only make what you give us. And don't ever leave a percentage on the total after the discount or comp -- always tip on what the total would have been. 6. THE LATE ONES: If you come into the restraunt 10 mins before closing or any time near closing hurry up and order your food and get out. Closed means closed, not social hour. It is so rude to sit there and take your sweet time. We can't leave until you leave because we have to do sidework and clean the table you are sitting at. We don't want to stand there waiting for you for an extra hour just because you don't want to go home. We recommend 24 hour establishments such as Denny's if you wish to sit into the wee hours of the night. 7. THE TABLE HOGGERS: If you only come in for coffee or a dessert, to do paper work, or to have a meeting, don't sit there taking up our booths for hours. We are not Starbucks or a hotel restraunt. If you want to sit for hours, go there or else you better leave a good tip for us and camping fee included. 8. THE GREET: When we come up to the table to greet you and we ask how you are doing please let us know. We honestly want to know how you are doing. If you are in a bad mood we want to know that from the beginning. A confused stare or complete silence does not suffice as a reply to "How are you doing?". Also don't interrupt our greeting and say "I want coffee", "Can we get some bread," or "what are the soups?" 9. CELL PHONES: Don't ever talk on your cell phone in a restraunt. This is probably the rudest thing to do. If you must be on your cell, at least keep your voice down in respect for other customers. If you are on your cell phone when we walk up to greet your table we will walk away until you get off your phone. Just show some respect and give us your attention for a couple of minutes. 10. TAKE-AWAY OR TO-GOS: Always remember to tip the take-out order servers! They work just as hard as a server, and hardly ever get tips for it! WE DESERVE TO BE TIPPED TOO! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!SERVERS READING THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please repost this so the word can get out, since so many people are uneducated about tips and our lives depend on this - at least for now...... SIGNED, YOUR FELLOW RESTAURANT WORKERS

wow you must work at a sucky job. why dont you get a new one if you hate it so much? because not everyone is rude like that. i really hope you dont live in the same state as me. all those rude ppl can stay there. but yeah if it sucks so bad get a new one

does anyone know were i can post this to get the word out? maximum exposure to educate people?
The next time you're out eating at a resturant, look at your server. Do you think they are really happy to be doing that job? The answer is no, they are not, but its what we do, and we do it for the money so please help them out. Its a tougher job than you think and you should pay them accordingly! There are SO many people out there flooding the restaurants w/o any knowledge of how to tip. Here is a short guide for the general public to follow. Feel free to print out and store in your wallet and/or purse. 1. CHILDREN "THE LITTLE DEVILS": If you have children, DO NOT let them, open and dump anything on the table (ie; salt, sugar, etc). IF YOU DO, you must leave an extra $5 for the server to clean up YOUR CHILD'S mess & to restock the now unusable wasted items. Don't get mad if you ask for crackers and your server tells you they're out when you just saw another table eating crackers with their soup -- can you blame them for not wanting to clean up the mess afterward? We are neither their babysitter nor their parent. The least you can do is pay us for the extra work. Also make sure you control your kids and don't let them scream or run around the restraunt. It's very distracting not to mention dangerous if they get ran over by a server with hot food in their hands. Just because you're out for dinner doesn't give you an excuse to let your kids mess around on their own free will like wild monkeys! 2. "THE CAMPERS": If you feel the necessity to stay for longer than 15 minutes after you pay, its an extra $3 every 30 minutes. We make our money from the tables. If you are in one and we can't seat it, we don't make money. 3. COMPLIMENTS (VERBAL TIPS): Telling a server they are the best server they've ever had is not a tip. If we are good, let us know by leaving us more money. We cant pay our bills on compliments. Its not that we don't appreciate the praise, its just that if you tell us how great we were and then leave 10% it's an insult. 4. THE SALVATION PAMPHLETS: Prayer cards or any other religious pamphlet is NOT a tip. It is insulting that you assume we are w/o religion and must save us. Again, like #3, we cant pay bills w/ prayer cards. We'd go to church on Sundays if it wasn't mandatory to work on Sundays because EVERYONE who goes to church follows it by eating out. Also don't try to preach to us while we are working. We don't go to your work and put you down so don't do it to us.....plus, we don't have time to listen to you babble. 5. TIPPING: It is not 1960. Cost of living has gone up dramatically since then. 18% is the MINIMUM amount of what you should be tipping your servers. Remember, that steak is $12.99 not $22.99 because restaurants aren't required to pay minimum wage in most states! Here in AZ we get paid whooping $2.13 an hr meaning all of our money is made in tips. If you were not properly paid in your profession, you would be pretty pissed too! We are taxed on 10 percent of your meal automatically, not to mention we have to tip out a percentage of our sales - your bill - to the hosts, bartenders, and bussers. So if you dont leave a tip, WE END UP PAYING FOR YOUR MEAL!! So move that decimal one spot left and multiply by 2 and your server will never be disappointed. ($25 = $2.50 x 2 = $5) 6. THE COMPLAINERS: If you get a discount because of your food was prepared wrong or something, do not take it out of our tip. We didn't cook it. The cooks get paid hourly regardless if the food sucks. However, we only make what you give us. And don't ever leave a percentage on the total after the discount or comp -- always tip on what the total would have been. 7. THE LATE ONES: If you come into the restaurant 10 mins before closing or any time near closing hurry up and order your food and get out. Closed means closed, not social hour. It is so rude to sit there and take your sweet ass time. We can't leave until you leave because we have to do sidework and clean the table you are sitting at. We don't want to stand there waiting for you for an extra hour just because you don't want to go home. We recommend 24 hour establishments such as Dennys or Steak n Shake if you wish to sit into the wee hours of the night. 8. THE TABLE HOGGERS: If you only come in for coffee or a dessert, to do paper work, or to have a meeting, don't sit there taking up our booths for hours. We are not Starbucks or a hotel restaurant. If you want to sit for hours, go there or else you better leave a good tip for us and camping fee included. 9. THE GREET: When we come up to the table to greet you and we ask how you are doing please let us know. We honestly want to know how you are doing. If you are in a bad mood we want to know that from the beginning. A confused stare or complete silence does not suffice as a reply to "How are you doing?". Also don't interrupt our greeting and say "I want coffee", "can we get some bread, or "what are the soups?".......thats just rude! Do you enjoy it when people blatently interupt what you are saying? Didn't think so. ***In addition, if your server stops by the table and says they will be right with you, they are not lying, so sit and be patient and wait for them to come back to properly greet you. Sometimes we can get a liitle busy so we don't give a shit how you feel about it....you will just have to wait a minute! So there's not much point in throwing requests in our faces, you'll have to wait for us either way. SO BE NICE! 10. THOSE DAMN CELL PHONES: Don't ever talk on your cell phone in a restraunt. This is probably the rudest thing to do. If you must be on your cell, at least keep your voice down in respect for other customers. If you are on your cell phone when we walk up to greet your table we will walk away until you get off your phone. Not to be rude, but simply because we don't want to deal with you trying to manage 2 conversations. Just show some respect and give us your attention for a couple of minutes. 11. TAKE-AWAY OR TO-GOS: Always remember to tip the take-out order servers! They work just as hard as a server, and hardly ever get tips for it! THEY DESERVE TO BE TIPPED TOO! 12. FOREIGNERS: Welcome to America! Here, we tip our servers appropriately, not this 10% Bullshit! All of the above apply! 13. THE CARDINAL RULE: Don't fuck with people who handle your food! Be nice to us....our job is a lot harder than it looks! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!SERVERS READING THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please repost this so the word can get out, since so many people are uneducated about tips and our lives depend on this - at least for now...... SIGNED, YOUR FELLOW RESTAURANT WORKER to the first person who commented, of course you can repost it!!! do it, get the word out! and thanks yer cute.......and to the second one who posted, be careful becuase with that attitude I may have spit in your food. Watch the movie waiting or just dont go out to eat were there is a server becuase we deserve to be tipped well, not your stupid lil pennies!!!!!!!! and to the third , dude i love being a waiter, I am not bitter man, I just want people to know in a stern way. We are always polite in trying to get accross to people who dont know server ettiquette, so I felt this should be bold. I make great money as a server, more than 40 percent of my sales, but that is because of the people who know are respect the code! I dont hold a chip about anyone, this is just for the peeps who do these things to maybe think about the server for a change....

YOU are the best man. Ive been a server for a long time now and I have to say thats about every single thing is on the list. And for you ppl who say he has a bad attitude! well i tell you what, you try doing this job and bustin your butt all day for ppl who are ungrateful. Don't get me wrong there are good ppl out there but a lot of them are extremely rude. You wouldn't believe some of the things Ive seen. And you could go out to your tables and give it everything you've got and be as nice as possible and still get 5 dollars on a 100dollar order. It doesn't matter if you've been a good waiter anymore ppl just dont care. Anyone who thinks I have a bad attitude is wrong also I am always a good worker when it comes to my customer but i tell you what I'm so tired of being shafted by ppl who dont give a damn. Ty for this post my friend and i -plan on putting it everywhere i can.

server ettiquette for all the uneducated people out there!?
The next time you're out eating at a resturant, look at your server. Do you think they are really happy to be doing that job? The answer is no, they are not, but its what we do, and we do it for the money so please help them out. Its a tougher job than you think and you should pay them accordingly! There are SO many people out there flooding the restaurants w/o any knowledge of how to tip. Here is a short guide for the general public to follow. Feel free to print out and store in your wallet and/or purse. 1. CHILDREN "THE LITTLE DEVILS": If you have children, DO NOT let them, open and dump anything on the table (ie; salt, sugar, etc). IF YOU DO, you must leave an extra $5 for the server to clean up YOUR CHILD'S mess & to restock the now unusable wasted items. Don't get mad if you ask for crackers and your server tells you they're out when you just saw another table eating crackers with their soup -- can you blame them for not wanting to clean up the mess afterward? We are neither their babysitter nor their parent. The least you can do is pay us for the extra work. Also make sure you control your kids and don't let them scream or run around the restraunt. It's very distracting not to mention dangerous if they get ran over by a server with hot food in their hands. Just because you're out for dinner doesn't give you an excuse to let your kids mess around on their own free will like wild monkeys! 2. "THE CAMPERS": If you feel the necessity to stay for longer than 15 minutes after you pay, its an extra $3 every 30 minutes. We make our money from the tables. If you are in one and we can't seat it, we don't make money. 3. COMPLIMENTS (VERBAL TIPS): Telling a server they are the best server they've ever had is not a tip. If we are good, let us know by leaving us more money. We cant pay our bills on compliments. Its not that we don't appreciate the praise, its just that if you tell us how great we were and then leave 10% it's an insult. 4. THE SALVATION PAMPHLETS: Prayer cards or any other religious pamphlet is NOT a tip. It is insulting that you assume we are w/o religion and must save us. Again, like #3, we cant pay bills w/ prayer cards. We'd go to church on Sundays if it wasn't mandatory to work on Sundays because EVERYONE who goes to church follows it by eating out. Also don't try to preach to us while we are working. We don't go to your work and put you down so don't do it to us.....plus, we don't have time to listen to you babble. 5. TIPPING: It is not 1960. Cost of living has gone up dramatically since then. 18% is the MINIMUM amount of what you should be tipping your servers. Remember, that steak is $12.99 not $22.99 because restaurants aren't required to pay minimum wage in most states! Here in AZ we get paid whooping $2.13 an hr meaning all of our money is made in tips. If you were not properly paid in your profession, you would be pretty pissed too! We are taxed on 10 percent of your meal automatically, not to mention we have to tip out a percentage of our sales - your bill - to the hosts, bartenders, and bussers. So if you dont leave a tip, WE END UP PAYING FOR YOUR MEAL!! So move that decimal one spot left and multiply by 2 and your server will never be disappointed. ($25 = $2.50 x 2 = $5) 6. THE COMPLAINERS: If you get a discount because of your food was prepared wrong or something, do not take it out of our tip. We didn't cook it. The cooks get paid hourly regardless if the food sucks. However, we only make what you give us. And don't ever leave a percentage on the total after the discount or comp -- always tip on what the total would have been. 7. THE LATE ONES: If you come into the restaurant 10 mins before closing or any time near closing hurry up and order your food and get out. Closed means closed, not social hour. It is so rude to sit there and take your sweet *** time. We can't leave until you leave because we have to do sidework and clean the table you are sitting at. We don't want to stand there waiting for you for an extra hour just because you don't want to go home. We recommend 24 hour establishments such as Dennys or Steak n Shake if you wish to sit into the wee hours of the night. 8. THE TABLE HOGGERS: If you only come in for coffee or a dessert, to do paper work, or to have a meeting, don't sit there taking up our booths for hours. We are not Starbucks or a hotel restaurant. If you want to sit for hours, go there or else you better leave a good tip for us and camping fee included. 9. THE GREET: When we come up to the table to greet you and we ask how you are doing please let us know. We honestly want to know how you are doing. If you are in a bad mood we want to know that from the beginning. A confused stare or complete silence does not suffice as a reply to "How are you doing?". Also don't interrupt our greeting and say "I want coffee", "can we get some bread, or "what are the soups?".......thats just rude! Do you enjoy it when people blatently interupt what you are saying? Didn't think so. ***In addition, if your server stops by the table and says they will be right with you, they are not lying, so sit and be patient and wait for them to come back to properly greet you. Sometimes we can get a liitle busy so we don't give a **** how you feel about it....you will just have to wait a minute! So there's not much point in throwing requests in our faces, you'll have to wait for us either way. SO BE NICE! 10. THOSE DAMN CELL PHONES: Don't ever talk on your cell phone in a restraunt. This is probably the rudest thing to do. If you must be on your cell, at least keep your voice down in respect for other customers. If you are on your cell phone when we walk up to greet your table we will walk away until you get off your phone. Not to be rude, but simply because we don't want to deal with you trying to manage 2 conversations. Just show some respect and give us your attention for a couple of minutes. 11. TAKE-AWAY OR TO-GOS: Always remember to tip the take-out order servers! They work just as hard as a server, and hardly ever get tips for it! THEY DESERVE TO BE TIPPED TOO! 12. FOREIGNERS: Welcome to America! Here, we tip our servers appropriately, not this 10% Bullshit! All of the above apply! 13. THE CARDINAL RULE: Don't **** with people who handle your food! Be nice to us....our job is a lot harder than it looks! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!SERVERS READING THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please repost this so the word can get out, since so many people are uneducated about tips and our lives depend on this - at least for now...... 14 hours ago - 3 days left to answer. Additional Details 10 minutes ago and everyone, i love my job. I am not mad at people, just trying to get a point across becuase people usually dont listen until its bieng yelled out!

I am sending this to my younger sister, who is a server at an upscale restaurant and has to deal with a LOT of the "I am rich and entitled" attitude. I swear I don't know how she does it... Yes, I do tip very well (since I know these restaurants aren't paying you guys well) and because I know the tips I and others give you are your primary source of income. I do have a kid, but she is NEVER allowed to run around the restaurant, throw food, or dump things out anywhere. Sheesh, you'd think all of your points would be common etiquette sense, but I have also heard some horror stories from my sister about how people seem to revert back to cave man days once they come into her restaurant. Thanks for posting this...I really enjoyed reading it!

Sister using mother, won't leave her home?
My father died in 2005 and after his death a host of relatives have moved in my parents' home creating bills and no paying rent/bills. My 45 year old sister has lived consistently staying for months leaving only to return to the home shortly after my father's death...never asking my mother's permission to move into her home. My sister doesn't work. She hasn't paid any bills, rent or purchased groceries. I have attempted to keep my peace because I am trying not to further upset my mother. My mother has returned to work to try to compensate for her fixed income. Each month I send my mother $ to help offset the bills but with the increasing costs of everything it is becoming increasingly hard to manage both. So, my question is how might I or we go about getting my sister out of the house? Oh, I forgot to say that her daughter with baby just came this weekend and my mother thinks that she is trying to move her in as well....not asking...no one works but my mother in her early sixties. I have spoken to my mother regarding this and in the beginning wanted to write up a rental contract. My family members have added services to my mother's home without her permission and is now unable to get any of the services that she once had from well known providers with exception of one provider which has been in my name since the early nineties when I secured the home for my parents during this time prior to them moving into it. I love all of my family but I want my sister out of the house because she has yet to give my mother a dime...nothing not even $20.00 the entire time. If my niece intends to move in now this is it.

I've been in this situation with my son. I lost my husband in 1999. I live on disability and my son was only paying when it was convenient. After a lot of hearing others tell me what I should do and knowing fully well they were right, it took me getting really fed up with paying everything and doing everything before I told him he had to get out. I've had such peace since he moved out and he found the true love of his life. My advice to you: Tell Mom you'll be happy to help her as soon as Sis is out of the picture. Until then, you can't help. You feel continuing to send money is only enabling your sister to sit back and glide along the "take advantage of Mom" street until both you and your Mom are in the poor house. I know it will be difficult for you to do, but trust me in the long run it will be best for both of you. Not to mention what is best for your sister as well. My heart aches for you and for your Mom. Losing a husband is hard. Having an unappreciative child mooching off you when he/she clearly sees you're struggling is even worse... God bless you for being there for your Mom!